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Yes, I do have to qualify a lot of what I say.

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Some people get frustrated that I use qualifiers to get my point across. 

I don't with my trusted loved ones. With everyone else, until further notice with each individual one of them, I do.

I don't know... until I get to notice, know and trust people... who out there is a spin doctor-- or just inattentive due to their own trauma and ends up projecting whatever onto me-- and who isn't. 

This isn't for my ego... it's for my safety. It's because if people get the wrong idea of me and then pass it on to a large enough number of certain types of people with enough power, then no I'm not safe.

No, people don't "just get the gist anyway." Not in my experience. I understand that I was around the wrong people for myself, and I was the wrong person for them. But that shit made me never, ever want it to happen again if I can at all help it. Fucked-up nastiness happened to me in the past out of being misunderstood. I know I can't control it all, and I shouldn't. But I can do what I CAN to minimize the mess that does happen. I have every right to do that.

People in my past didn't get me... they assumed. And their assumptions were often directly dehumanizing ones.

As to my writing, my main philosophy books are each going to have two parts: the long version with all the qualifiers and disclaimers that I know I'm going to need one day to save my ass and that of those I love, and the plain English version for those who understand and just want to get to the point. Each of the two versions will have a blurb at the beginning referring the reader to reference the other version as the reader sees fit.

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