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Wrong things for right reasons, right things for wrong reasons.

Doing the right things for people for the wrong reasons leads to doing the wrong things to people and saying it's for the right reasons. And vice versa. That is paternalism and/or it is (or is the moral equivalent of) taking the job for the money; profit over people. 

And it's never for any good reason even if you think you're helping those you are getting paid to help, or helping those you are being paternalistic towards.

No one should be allowed to go into a helping profession for the sake of having a career or getting credit or for gaining self-confidence or self-esteem (aka by controlling others). Or under any impression that paternalism (the toxic idea of anyone knowing better than another person who or what that other person is or isn't or what is good or not or bad for that other person) helps anyone.

Helping people is the opposite of doing it for your own sake. It's also the opposite of forcing them or forcing anything on them in any respect. Because then you start sacrificing the well-being and rights of those you are supposed to be helping in order to keep your job... or, ironically, to help them. Or to help them by keeping your job, or by keeping your job in order to be able to help them. 

But they never owed you a job or a career. They also never owed it to you to exorcise YOUR demons by making YOU feel they are safe or that you helped them either.

Helping people with the intention of them owing you later... Especially if you want them to or think they owe you their ass... Their life or their soul... Their human rights... Is evil. You will never be and never were and are not evil, but that action, that intent-- which denies and is oblivious of others' actual infinite permanent unnegotiable unconditional sentience and human rights-- is what is evil.

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