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The stigma of the idea of being oneself

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We need and deserve and are needed and deserved by others to glorify and celebrate and love on and encourage traits like spontenaiety, ability to change one's mind, questioning things, honesty, transparency, courage and innocence and innovation and openness and self expression and closeness and feeling things personally and creativity and resourcefulness and thinking outside the box and love and sense of justice and fairness and having standards and idealism and realism and doing what one has to do for survival.

Not pit those qualities against each other as being opposites or mutually exclusive or as unable to coexist peacefully or at all or as one... Or as being bad things or nothing... Or useless or negative or loser or monster things. Or lesser or incompleteness or not worth it. Or as one needing to be sacrificed for another, and that therefore we are all wretched sorry characters by default... but that oh, by the way, we still need to be blamed for it because it's still somehow our fault... and shamed for it all. As though there's no pure love in any place at all on any level, just corruption no matter what... and that that corruption blames us all... and that that, by its very nature and definition, is still all our fault... all our weakness and incompetence (AKA negligence) too.

We need and deserve that chance to stop letting corrupt society discourage us from having and using and expressing and admitting and showing and being those things society tells us to shame or see is somehow impure or corrupt... to allow us to be encouraging, defending, liking, loving, enjoying, being proud of, feeling safe with, sharing, and upholding those qualities rather than selling our souls by stigmatizing ourselves and others for them... For having or associating with or being or including or holding or harboring or keeping them. For letting our guard down and being ourselves. For ever getting the supposedly-dangerous and supposedly-toxic notion that ourselves are who we're supposed to be and present as and show up as, rather than hide and squash and deny and disavow and renounce and try to change.

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