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Part of stepping up is stepping back.

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The moment I get a bad or negative attitude on any level about someone then I need to step back from them. Not locked in somewhere or out of society in the tundra with no positive resources. I just need to step back from the person who is triggering me. 

Because any and all attempts to help them while I am in that state will do nothing but harm them. Because I'd be helping them from a place of ignorance and exasperation and ego and from being their victim rather than for them... 

The only way to help them for them is to see them for the underneath and overall and behind it all good that they are... not for the evil intertwined in them that gets intertwined in all of us... it didn't start with them or with anyone else, and won't end with anyone either. 

Until then, staying away from them is what they and I need. Harming them including psychologically is always out of the question. It will always negate any and all good done to or "for" them until it is made right. 

\But you must never start at all. You are not ever evil. But the "I will seek forgiveness later rather than ask permission now" is evil. It justifies unspeakable evil towards others. The "end justifies the means." It itself is a form of dehumanization by denying the person's autonomy. Dehumanization is never ever even okay or passable as something to do. Ever. Not necessary.

We all learn to be honoring of other's sentience enough to be careful of it if we can't be affirming of all of it. In that particular way, being careful when one can't be good is a good thing.

The moment one starts feeling like one is disciplining a bunch of children or prisoners or drafted grunts, rather than helping anyone, then one needs to step back for a while. Otherwise that attitude will corrupt us and all we do with that attitude. A little bit of it overtakes it all.

It's a shame society sees kids and inmates and privates in the military or anyone else as fair game to dehumanize or as needing it for their own good or as others needing others to do this to them.

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