Overkill

 When the only way we have ever been held accountable is by overkill punishment or any type or form or degree of torture... Then we turn against the idea of people being held accountable. We stop holding people accountable except often behind their backs or in more passive-aggressive ways or by being overly nice and the truth coming out in disguise or in some other way towards them or toward innocent others or toward ourselves... Or as a sudden explosion from stuffing or otherwise denying or hiding our feelings of injustice. 

And that is how we end up overkilling and torturing others and misappropriating blame onto the wrong person or source. We punish ourselves by refusing to hold others accountable because we keep it inside. We see ourselves as less deserving of peace or better able to handle torture (and that if we can't handle it then we're some sort of less-than) or more deserving of it. This harms us. And them. Torture is and was never necessary ever. Shame and guilt and existential fear and more negativity than positivity, and depression, are all forms of torture. The idea that anything or anyone could ever be or become or have been any kind of general hopeless case or hopeless case in general or lesser person is torture.

Now I know why I'm here. To stop torture. Mainly forms that aren't overtly or mostly physical.

We don't need to either torture or let them torture us or get away with it. The option is always in the main point. The golden rule. When we get lost we can and should refer back to it. If we can't try to follow it, then that means we have forgotten it.

And it's a two way street. Not just "I need to treat you like I want you to treat me" but "I don't have to take anything from you that I wouldn't dish out to you."