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No right to even START forcibly writing in another person's book

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When someone winds you up then you end up having no choice but to finish the book that they started for you without your consent and over your objections.... You end up having to clean up their mess before being able to move on. And no one can do it for you or it would be denying you your autonomy for how you want to and don't want to proceed and what results you want and don't want. But YOU HAVE THE Absolute RIGHT to.have a loving soulmate to voluntarily and genuinely enthusiastically clean it up WITH you with your consent to the extent you want and need them to do it with you.


Your abuser can't clean up their own mess in your life except to the extent you know you can trust them to... because they'd deliberately or subconsciously sabotage the cleanup. Or accidentally/absentmindedly screw it up. They certainly wouldn't honor your wishes and needs and feelings. 

But they need to pay you emotionally for the extent of the dehumanization they did to you. Not by them getting or feeling tortured or guilty or ashamed or scared or sad, but by them expressing true understanding of how you are a sentient being who deserved better and that you are also on top of that are this positive particular way that deserved better in this way. And that they will treat you accordingly from then on. And that includes leaving you alone and not harming you. And not doing anything negative to you indirectly or behind your back that gets back to and harms you through a back door.

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