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No exceptions. No excuses.

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If you and your partner agreed mutually in advance to lie to each other about some certain things, then you do you. It takes all kinds of people to make a world. But Teddy and I don't operate like that. Not originally and also because we have a further aversion to lying to our own and being lied to by our own for any reason from having been lied to by partners of ours in the past. 

One thing Teddy and I never did to each other no matter how mad we were at each other was lie to each other. In any way for any reason. By action or omission. No exceptions, no excuses, no matter what or who or where or when or why or how or how much to lie or how much of whatever was going on. 

We even have trouble shutting up to each other about surprises we're cooking up for each other's birthdays. 

We have gone months without talking to each other in 2021 and 2022 but never lied to each other... or withheld, hid, distorted, embellished, stretched, bent, redirected, exaggerated, twisted, played, censored, delayed, deprioritized, or controlled-released any part of any truth about anything to each other. Or distracted each other from any part of any truth about anything towards one another, unless the other asked us to.  And if it is something that effects or affects us or our lives, telling others before telling each other is not okay for or to us if we are in the same vicinity or able to contact each other.

Honest-to-goodness, actually, genuinely forgetting something is one thing. But forgetting conveniently or "accidentally on purpose" or trying to forget so that we don't have to tell is never acceptable to us or with us or between us.

If one of us doesn't want to hear about something right now we'll tell the other one we don't want to hear it right now and the other one will wait and ask again later or be asked by the other one to tell them now... whichever comes first. But we never choose for each other what the other one knows or sees or hears or doesn't. If we ask something we get told by the other as much as the other knows about it.

The idea of deliberately feeding each other porky pies offends our souls. As does the idea of withholding any pie or any part of it. This includes accidentally-on-purpose or quasi-deliberately or in any panic or moment of weakness. 

No exceptions. No excuses.

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