I'm not you.

My way of communicating right now is direct. If I'm sarcastic or joking, then I will be obvious about it. Otherwise I mean what I say... No hidden crap... No extra disguised baggage... No deception or manipulation.... No manipulating for attention even. I know at this point that it isn't evil or manipulative to ask straightforwardly for attention, so there's no need to manipulate for it to any extent in any way... which obviously involves manipulating people into thinking you are not manipulating.

So I never mean the opposite of the words I say unless I'm joking or being sarcastic. I don't do dishonest or hidden mind games or manipulation. I don't say things out loud to convince myself that it is or isn't true about myself. I don't do that. I don't mind you doing that but I do mind you assuming I am doing it when I'm not. Which I'm not.

Just because such-and-such is what you would mean if you said what I was saying in the words I said it in doesn't mean I mean that. I am not you. I don't share every last one of your values, priorities or styles of communicating. The only style of communicating that is universal is being a sentient being, as everyone is to an equal extent with no exceptions. The only universal value everyone has at all on any level is for everyone to treat people the way they want to be treated ... As sentient... And to never take crap we wouldn't dish out. The only universal priority everyone had is to find and be found by who they truly belong with who can and will therefore help them advance the universal agenda (the agenda of love, humanization, acknowledgment of all sentience in everyone) with others. Everything else... Like "this person is being passive aggressive" or "that one is manipulating" ... Is subjective and/or situation-specific commentary and events. Not universal fact about everyone.

And just because I'm being honest doesn't mean there has to be something hidden in it or that there is something that I'm hiding under it that is making me act so honest in self defense or overcompensation. If you don't believe me, then you need to ask for proof. Sometimes a person actually is being actually honest, believe it or not. If you think otherwise then that just means you feel safer with certain people who lie to you rather than with those whose style isn't to lie, because at least with them you can see where and when they are lying.

To each their own... but don't pretend then to be closer with me than we should be.

I can tolerate people who admit they lie... Provided they don't lie to anyone about the business of the person they're lying to or about overall things to do with everyone being a validly sentient being.

I mind people who lie but don't admit it. There's a way to sniff out the actual liars and in the meantime not trust their word blindly. But that way is never to make blind assumptions about anyone or blanket assumptions like that about everyone.

I'm not bragging about being honest or telling anyone they should never lie no matter what or saying I'm better than anyone.

This is a call for someone to just understand where I'm at here and acknowledge it to me. It's a call for empathy, not for admiration or a fight or a lecture.