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It isn't them vs. us or this vs. that.

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BPD, CPTSD and PTSD... we need to stop the us vs. them and that vs. this.

This isn't a competition. Or a courtroom.

We need to stop with the "this one is better," "that one is more human," "it's okay to stigmatize this one," "that one is evil," "having this one means you're soulless or lesser," all of that.

No one and no one's traits or reasons for things are lesser or soulless, other than the idea that anyone is lesser (as in, the lack of an idea about anything) that is none of us and no complete reason for anything about or concerning us.

Borderline Personality Disorder, CPTSD and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder are the same things by different names... each name with a huge place/time/situation/person/presentation-specific societal value judgment assigned to it along with and because of a bunch of stereotypes... including directly-dehumanizing ones.

All 3 of those "disorders" are overcompensation, the extremes of hypervigilance and total distraction, a bias towards the negative, immersion in the past and in situations like it, trying to recreate a past situation in any either wierd or straightforward way in order to "do it better this time" or "get justice this time" or "do it better to get justice this time," projecting of one's own and one's abuser's pasts and experiences and values and reasons and motives onto others, misplaced beliefs, misplaced expression of specific beliefs, desperate measures, being forced to bleed all over people who didn't cut you and throw up all over people who didn't poison you, and NOT YOUR FAULT and NOT ANY WEAKNESS OF YOURS and NOT ANY INCOMPETENCE OF YOURS and NOT any neglect, oversight, or uncaring attitude of yours.

The things that happened that caused your trauma, the trauma itself, and any result of your trauma or of what happened that caused it is not due to anything you did wrong or bad, or due to you neglecting to do some or any good thing. 

It isn't you. It isn't even them. And often "they" are people you will relate to once they and you and all of us realize that those who often appear to be "like our past aggressors" are sometimes the opposite of them... their existence or level or type of trauma, and their reasons for expressing it the way they do, and even their expression of it, is often the opposite of what we expected or assumed it was.

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